1 AM Musings

Hellooo Readers,

How have y’all been ?

First of all, let me begin by sharing some important news- I’ve left my job and in the process, tried to reclaim my life.

Secondly, now since I’ve a lot of time at my disposal, I’ll try to write more frequently (this is one skill which I want to hone and master).


Let me get back to my musings.

Of late, I’ve been contemplating about life (well, to be honest, this is something which I keep doing all the time, but now as I am free of responsibilities and have a lot of free time at my disposal, I’ve begun to do this more frequently and more deeply :p )

It all started with an unassuming accident that I witnessed on my last day at work. Three of my colleagues and I had gone down post lunch for some dessert and a walk. While returning, a scooter rider collided with a car and fell just 5 steps ahead of me. Though, by God’s grace, it was not a major accident, as the road had a slight bend and vehicles were forced to slow down, but the more I think of it, the more I feel intrigued as well as scared by the ephemeral nature of Life.

It is so easy to loose track of life. We ourselves give more attention and focus to the trivialities, to the secondary things and seldom think about the bigger picture.

For instance, if the above accident had taken place just a moment earlier, I would surely have got impacted as well. And just imagine the outcome, if the road was not curved and the vehicles were cruising at a minimal speech of just 50 kmph. The outcome could have been disastrous.

What’s more unnerving, is the fact that in this grand scheme of things, I, by my mere presence at the wrong place at the wrong time, could have been affected in ways unimaginable.

Add to this, the fact that since the pandemic began, I had gone to the office just on that day.

These seemingly unlinked details could have turned my entire life upside down, only if a few conditions were to be changed here and there.

The funniest part of this all is that my three colleagues wouldn’t even be thinking of all this. And the sad part, for me, is that, they are living a very happy life.

Truly, ignorance is bliss!

But once you know, how can you ignore, right?

Farming Politics – What You Sow, What I Reap

How does a market work ?

Seller and buyer meet, buyer inspects the goods, both negotiate a price and conclude the transaction.

This is the most basic and common idea of how a transaction happens and this whole mechanism is broadly termed as market mechanism.

How does an Indian Agricultural Mandi work?

Seller and buyer meet, buyer inspects the goods, buyer decides the price and buyer concludes the transaction.

Unfair, right ?

But then, one might argue, that why does the seller sell? Why does he not go to some other buyer?

Well, it’s simple. All the buyers decide the rate before-hand and the seller is forced to choose one among the identicals. Law doesn’t permit him to sell elsewhere. Until now. (Okay, until three months ago, when the ordinances were issued).

Yesterday, two landmark bills were passed by the Rajya Sabha, namely – The Farmers’ Produce Trade and Commerce (Promotion and Facilitation) Bill and the Farmers (Empowerment and Protection) Agreement of Price Assurance and Farm Services Bill (the Lok Sabha had already passed them earlier in the week) and now these bills are all set to become a law.

Yes, the bills were passed amid chaos and pandemonium.

Yes, proper procedures were not followed.

Yes, the bills could have been debated upon a fair bit more.

Yes, the nuances of the bills could have been a little bit more extensively researched.

But, overall, I still maintain that the bills were the need of the hour. Infact, these are the bills which should have been promulgated a lot earlier.

Now, you might ask, if the bills are all hunky dory and wonderful, then why are the farmers protesting?

Fair question, isn’t it ?

Again, the answer is simple but three fold.

Firstly, the farmers who are protesting are the big farmers from the northern States of Punjab and Haryana, where the Government Markets are very well organized and these bills aims to curb the unchecked power of these markets, which are wreaking havoc on farmers in the poorer states. (Remember when onions were sold at Rs. 2 per kg by the farmer but consumers paid Rs. 80).

Secondly, the farmers are generally unaware about the bills and since it is a matter of their livelihood, they can easily get influenced based on the facts being fed to them.

Thirdly, and majorly, it’s all about Politics. The government mandis are usually managed by ministers, MLAs, MPs. A check on these mandis means a check on these public servants.

And we all know, that it’s essentially the public, which is the servant in India – enough said.

What are the real benefits of these bills ?

Quite a lot, I must say.

The most important one being – Farmers have been freed from the mandis. This means that now, they can sell their crops to whomsoever they so desire. They won’t have to choose one among identicals, but rather, they will have the option to sell to the one who bids the highest. Also, they can sell their produce wherever they want to – intra-district, inter-district, intra-state, inter-state. All the boundaries have been erased. Government has also coined a slogan – One Nation, One Market.

Next, a concept of contract farming has been introduced. This is a total game changer. Farmers can get into contracts with the private players well before they’ve sown their seeds and lock a price. There is also a clause whereby, farmer will enjoy enhanced prices at the time of reaping, if the market prices are significantly higher at that point of time. Though, it should also be noted that benefit of this system will accrue to large farmers and co-operatives. Small farmers won’t be benefitted much and majority of Indian farmers are small farmers.

The role of middlemen will greatly reduce. These bills will surely dent their earnings but on the contrary, farmer’s incomes will increase and for an agrarian country like ours, that should be the primary aim and that is, in fact, the primary aim of these bills. Though, government should definitely think about alternatives for the middlemen as well, since they are also Indian citizens and have the equal right to life.

Lastly, consumers stand to benefit too. If the number of middlemen reduce, the prices also drop. So it’s a win-win situation for all, except the middlemen.

What next?

Most certainly, expect a lot of fireworks in the days to come.

The middlemen which I have been referring to in this entire write-up includes not just the traders but also, and not exclusively, big farmers, local politicians, ministers, state governments, etc.

These people, who have deep pockets and wield a lot of influence won’t sit idle as their clout fades. They will revolt. Not by themselves, but by stirring farmer agitations, bandhs and strikes, protest marches and so on.

What should the government do?

Majority of the farmers are being swayed by a few, who are peddling half truths like rollback of Minimum Support Price (MSP). It is interesting to note that MSP benefit is utilized by just 6% of farmers basis the volume produced, but nevertheless, it is a guarantee which a farmer holds very dearly. It is an assurance that if no one buys his crops, the government will procure it.

It may seem weird, but the government has already said that it won’t be rolling back the MSP. In fact, it has recently come out with the MSP for a variety of commodities. However, for some unknown reasons, it has been unable to write its own stance of not rolling it back in the new bills. This will certainly raise brows and it even should.

Next, the government should ensure that formation of buyer cartels doesn’t happen. If that happens, then all of this would be an exercise in futility.

Lastly, in my opinion, equal redressal opportunities should be given to both the parties. Currently, the benefits are well skewed towards the private players. For a bill (and soon to be law), such prejudices do more harm than good.

P.S. more research is required at my end as well. But here my intention was only to give a brief overview of what has happened, what is happening and what we can expect to happen.

More on it in the days to come. Cheers!

Efficacious Economics

Economics had never been my strong subject. But of late, I’ve begun understanding the various concepts that form up the modern economics as we know it today.

Just a minor tweaking of rules here and there can end up having a domino effect on the entire system.

Let us discuss one such tweak which has happened recently and I’m sure by the end of this post, you’ll be amazed by the brilliance of this subject just like I have been.

The year 2020 has been a very gloomy year for the global economy. With businesses unanimously reporting degrowth across all sectors and Q1 GDP declining by 23.9%, the overall sentiment should supposedly be negative. But ground reality is completely different. India has reached record high forex reserves. Inflation, which ideally should have skyrocketed due to almost zero supply for nearly two months, has surprisingly remained at 7% levels (retail), which is higher than the mean of the previous 12 month data, but considering the pandemic situation, is still in a very good range. INR is appreciating steadily and exchange rate today is at Rs. 73.40 to 1$ (it had touched Rs. 72. 76).

How has India managed all this ?

The first and foremost reason is that agriculture sector is luckily still growing and showing no signs of stress, complemented by an above average monsoon (upwards by almost 20%).

Now, with a growing agriculture sector, the only worry at the moment is about rising inflation and the best option to check inflation is increasing the repo rate. The supply of rupees will diminish as no one will want to take loans at high rates. This will automatically take liquidity out of the hands of the people and restore balance. But how can RBI raise repo rates, since that would mean blowing a death knell for the majority of MSMEs and a lot of large industries as well, who wouldn’t be able to manage their rolling in such times without cheap external support.

Yet, tackling inflation is also necessary as agricultural employment has it’s limitations and Indian workforce is huge. So a very smart decision was taken which had two pronged effect – one on inflation and the other on currency appreciation.

RBI, via a notification, declared that it will start selling the dollar reserves, which are already at their all time high.

The effect was amazing.

Firstly, as the supply of dollars increased in the market, it’s value started decreasing (conversely, Rupee started appreciating). And secondly, liquidity dried up – who could resist those cheap dollars, right ?

And thus, using simple Economics and some luck, RBI managed to hit two birds with one stone. This is really something to marvel at.

Bidding adieu until next time!

Caught Alive, Brought Dead

Yes, this is about the recent Vikas Dubey encounter case. A curious case, wherein people predicted an encounter ‘hours before’ it actually happened.

I have no sympathy whatsoever for this gangster, who killed 8 policemen a few days ago and had more than sixty similar cases on-going against him at the time of his death. Rather, I want to raise the more pressing topics such as the Rule of Law, failure of Criminal Justice System and abuse of power- and consequently Anarchy.

Now, I know that this is a very harsh word to use and that the main accused deserved to be punished with utmost severity, but is it not the prerogative of the Judicial System to mete out the sentence? Is our system so weak that even the police force itself believes that it is better placed to serve justice? The whole idea sounds preposterous and scary.

Public acceptance also doesn’t help much. Since when did we, as a nation, start rooting for police “hooliganism” – if it can be called so- notwithstanding the fact that people were relieved and happy at the news of his elimination. Has our Judicial System – one of the four pillars of our Democracy – failed so miserably that our society accepts such farce encounters (and that’s what this is), as Justice? Has it come to this, that Rule of Law can be thus mocked – so openly and so brazenly?

At this point of time, some might feel eager to question my sanity and argue that police has done the right thing and saved lots of time and funds, which would have otherwise gone into the accused’s trial. Yes, agreed that it does save time and money- but who is to guarantee that if not stopped now, someday this won’t come back to haunt us back. Rather than nipping it in the bud, we are allowing the seeds of anarchy to grow unchecked. We are supporting it, to say the very least. We have to understand that, what’s wrong is wrong and shall always remain wrong- whichever way we may try to justify it.

Another issue that comes to the fore right now is that if Vikas Dubey was such a dreaded gangster, then why wait till he kills other policemen? Are the lives of common citizens so useless that the man, who kills them, is not even put behind bars? Is this some kind of a joke that the police only wakes up when someone from the force is killed, but is ready to turn a blind eye otherwise ? I think, this is a question which each one of us needs to ask. Infact, these are the questions for which we should seek accountability.

Apparently, Vikas Dubey was a member of the Bahujan Samajwadi Party (BSP), which ensured that he could continue his illegal activities and yet get away scot-free. He is said to have direct contacts with the party office bearers and hence, most of the times, cases against him were not filed or were dismissed on the basis of farcical investigations. Conspiracy theories are abound that his encounter was as much a political move as it was an act of vengeance by the police department. Whatever may be the truth, now it has been buried as well and the case has been closed.

Now all we are left with is a dead gangster, who surrendered at first and then midway choose to flee, whose encounter was predicted hours before it actually happened and questions- lots of unanswered questions.

Reminds me of the old adage – justice hurried-truth buried!

Seize the day

When Laila said, ” seize the day, my friend.. pehle iss din ko poori tarah jiyo…”, it was just another dialogue for me- notwithstanding the fact that ZNMD is one of my most favourite movies of all time which I have watched more than 100 times (atleast).

Also, when Amitabh Bhattacharya beautifully penned the following:
Kal ki khushiyon ka mehanga
Mutual fund leke
Kisht kyon bhar raha hai
Aaj ko dand deke
(For tomorrow’s happiness, why are you punishing your today)
I let it pass as if it was just any other random song.

But when I was coming home one fine day- last week, after sitting for rigourous interviews during the placement drive, with a confirmed job offer in hand, I didn’t feel any joy or happiness. There wasn’t a feeling of satisfaction or exultation. I had joined the rat race like millions before me. For once, it felt as if all the grind was not worth it after all. For the first time, I was able to relate to the above mentioned dialogue and the song lyrics and a whole lot of other things.

People close to me, people who know me well, shall surely realise this profound change, which had occurred in me.
For the ignorant- I never usually pay attention to the meaning of the song or take any teachings from any movies (most of them are anyway not worth mentioning :p).

At this point, if you’ve written me off as “Confused”, I would humbly urge you to reconsider. I’m not at all confused. Infact, I know what I have done so far in my life and I have a plan ready for all the things I am yet to do and achieve.

It is funny feeling, this, realising that everything you endured thus far in life, was to culminate into one job offer and one job offer alone. All my grand notions of a great life post my CA result lay shattered in that moment. Sure I was luckier than a whole lot of candidates, who couldn’t secure a job offer, but there was a hollow that I felt within me- somewhere, which I probably won’t be able to express in words.

“Somehow”- just like all the major life changing things have happened to me (somehow i started understanding math in 9th grade)-Somehow, I started feeling things more deeply, more intimately. These past few days, I have stopped rushing everywhere, or for that matter, Anywhere! Instead, now I take time out to feel the cool winds, which the blessed Nature always provided, but I never cared about due to my perpetual haste.

Now, I often stand in the balcony when it rains, so that I don’t get drenched, but at the same time, I can also enjoy the raindrops (if you’ve not tried this, then you must..at the earliest- thank me later).
In short, I have started getting a feeling that I’ve begun experiencing Life for what it truly is- that I’m not just merely living Life.

Maybe this is what growing up is all about.
Maybe this is what life is all about.
Whatever this is, it has surely left a very positive impact on me.
I have been able to make a profound connection with my surroundings, other people and with my own self.

Somehow, I realised that “Today is the tomorrow, we worried about yesterday…” And All is Well!

A Letter to my 12 year old self

17th September, 2019

Dearest Shrey,

How are you doing? I hope you are in good health and enjoying the innocence and bliss that comes attached with childhood, oblivious of the vices and problems that exist in this beautiful and amazing journey we call life.

Today, I’m writing to you my first letter (I’m sure this won’t be the last) after qualifying as a Chartered Accountant, primarily because I thought that I must and lastly also because I though I must. So..Yes, ten years down the line, you will prove to the world and everyone in it, that you can and you will accomplish everything that you ever set your eyes upon (Be proud, but don’t let that turn into vanity).

Read the next part of this letter very carefully. It contains some of my learnings over the years and advices that I’ve received and experiences that I’ve lived. These are as much a part of me as they will become a part of you in your journey.

Right now, you are naive. You understand things but you don’t pursue them aggressively and looking at myself, it will be fair to say that the only things you’ll ever pursue aggressively will be those on which your life depends. You will fail in a French exam once and then pursue it aggressively to score an unbelievable 97 in an exam which will matter. You’ll have to listen to a lot of naysayers before aggressively pursuing and acing the CA final examination. While all this is good, it is my sincere advice that you’ll have to learn to pursue even the important things in life, not just those on which life depends.

You will develop a habit of leaving majority tasks midway and passing it on to others. I don’t blame you. I have always lived like a manager- possessing the art of getting things done through others. While it may not be bad to possess such a valuable art, but you’ll have to eventually understand the hard fact of life that before getting work done through others, one needs to know how to do it himself. I can proudly say that I learnt it, albeit the hard way. I can also assure you that you’ll learn it too, but it would be better if you took cue right now and start working over it rather than going down my path.

Discipline is of paramount importance. I was taught this at school. You have also been taught this at the very same school. The problem with me is that I didn’t realise it’s importance till recently. Look, in your future, there will come a time when you’ll have to sit at home for six months at a stretch and prepare- to turn a dream into reality. I have done it too, trust me it’s not as bad as it sounds. However, let me tell you one interesting incident- I used to do a major chunk of my studies during the night and sleep till late in the morning. Though this has always helped me while studying but there came a time when I was all jumbled up about the days of the week or for that matter, I couldn’t recollect whether a particular event had occurred a day before or two days before. Six months is a long time and I’m thankful that I faced such situations. It taught me one thing very clearly- Discipline is the keyword. I had to incorporate it in my life at all costs and I did. You’ll be surprised and happy to know that bringing my life into a routine helped me focus more, grasp a little bit more and also recollect a little bit more (okay, a lot more :p ).

My dear Shrey, there is one area in which you’ll suck. You will have a really hard time keeping in touch with the people, whom you love and care. Most of your friends will complain about this to you. You might even end up losing a few good ones. But the worst part is that you won’t find anyone, who will teach you the nuances of this art. I, myself, am struggling with it even now. I’m trying nevertheless and hopefully, in some future letter, I might even handover the key to you, but for now- you are on your own, buddy!

Technology is the buzzword right now and it’s highly unlikely that this trend shall recede anytime soon. Discoveries are made everyday and consequently, you’ll have to keep yourself abreast of the changes regularly. You will need to keep an eye out for new things and latest developments in this field. There will soon come a time, if it hasn’t already, when our very life- mine and your’s, will depend largely on technology. Also, this is my benign attempt to make you understand the importance of recognising which way the wind blows and adjusting your sails accordingly.

You have a very bright life ahead of you and in this, you’ll come across a handful of luminaries, who will have a lasting impact on your life. These people will inspire you, they will motivate you, but they will leave a big hole in your life too. You will desperately want to and try to become like them. At times, you will feel the frustration because no matter what you do, you will realise that you wouldn’t have moved an inch towards those idols among men. Let me tell you, the way is very simple and clear-Spend more time on growing yourself, on grooming yourself and practising. Everyone can touch those towering heights of greatness and fame but a very few people ever do and those are the ones who have understood the axiom that the body grows with age and time but greatness only dwells where there is uncompromised practise and a willingness to grow, not on a physical plane (over time this happens anyway), but on a psychological plane.

I have so many things to tell you and yet it feels like I’ve said enough for one letter. Also, I require some content for my successive letters too, right :p

So here is one final piece of advice before I end this letter with which I’ve become so attached:
Be inquisitive- be curious, in short never ever stop being You!!

And PFA your future self in the attachment which I’m adding herewith.

Keep smiling like always 🙂
Lots of love,
[you will get this name somewhere in these ten years;)]

Radical Changes Part I

Since as far as I can remember- my brother always used to tell me that I could only get things done my way at home, in front of him and my parents and that when it came to facing the world, all my stubbornness and false sense of power dissipates as quickly as a fart in the wind.

Ofcourse I disagreed.

But deep down, I knew he was right.

For most of my childhood, I wasn’t able to communicate with strangers. When eventually, I did converse with people and made friends- I would always agree to everything they said and do everything they did. Even worse is the fact that I would take their side even when they were wrong.

Recently, I did some soul searching. Why did I do what I did? What made me stand shoulder to shoulder with those who were wrong even after knowing that they were wrong? Why did I meekly agree to everything that these people said but always rebelled against whatever my true benefactors- my family members said?

And guess What.. I do have the answers. Finally.

As I mentioned earlier, I wasn’t the best person in the crowd that you could strike a conversation with. Oh! Leave the best, I wasn’t even the second best or the third best. In reality, I must have been at the very bottom of the pile.

Though I may have been at the bottom, but I am a human being, just like you are. And there’s a reason why we are called social animals, right? We all need other human beings in our life. People with whom we can share our joys and sorrows. People with whom we can share secrets and experiences. I guess, I wasn’t any different.

So when I eventually befriended someone, I would go all out- do everything to maintain that friendship. Hell, I would not think twice about quarrelling with my brother, just to hang out with some friends, supposedly to have some fun time (Sorry about those times Parv, I know you only did it out of concern for me).

As mentioned earlier, I am a human being. Just like every other human being, I also have a lot of expectations from people, whose expectations I fulfill. Yes, I know therein lies the problem. But I can’t help it. But why should I even help it? I never as much as lay my eyes on a thing which isn’t mine, but it’s my right to take what is mine and still, rather than snatching it, I patiently wait and expect that it will be given to me- fairly and justly. Oh boy, can I be more wrong?

I always thought that there is good in the world and that everything will be set right eventually. Atleast this is what happens in movies and fairy tales. Yet, I always overlooked the fact that I didn’t live in a fairy world. I live in a place where the law of the nature itself states- Survival of the fittest.

Who was I fooling then but myself by waiting for things to come my way as a matter of right?

I gave my time freely to just about anyone and everyone that I was comfortable talking with. Not just my time, I gave everything that I could give. Though I never expected anyone to return any of it, I sure expected the receivers to stand behind me, if not besides me when required. I expected the receivers to atleast refuse politely rather than bluntly ignoring me when I asked them to help me in my hour of need. I am sure this isn’t too much to expect.

Anyway, I don’t want to cry about it. I want to write about how a single day can change someone’s life utterly and completely, especially since quite a few people have told me that I’ve changed- for the worse.

Such days come once or twice in a lifetime. They transform your way of living. You become so much more mature in a matter of few hours.

My day of realisation came too and since then, there’s been no looking back. I haven’t exactly become the first cousin of Darth Vader or the second cousin of the Devil, but I have learnt to stand my ground, even at the expense of losing people. Anyway, they must have never cared, because if they did, they would come right back, just like my brother or a host of other people do everytime. These are the people, whom I cherish.

Ever since you experience the day of realisation, your outlook towards life changes. You develop a respect for others, knowing that they all fight their own battles, but at the same time, you don’t allow yourself to be berated by anyone. You demand the same respect that you offer to others. You learn to speak up for yourself, even if it ends up being sour because at the end of the day, people come and go, but your conscience stays. And a battered and bruised conscience seldom fares well.

You begin to empathise with others but you also understand that empathising is all you can do and that not every battle is yours to fight. Infact, as your perspective broadens, you realise that there are many personal battles that shouldn’t be fought, because they’re futile.

Just like you learn to choose your battles wisely, you choose people wisely too. You stop seeking attention of anyone and everyone. Infact, you abhor attention unless completely necessary. You realise that attention only brings chaos and nuisance.

You acquire new powers and skills which were hitherto unknown to you because now you don’t have to spend your time balancing people and your mind, wasted by expectations.

(To be continued on request, so do like and comment, otherwise I’ll never know whether or not to write part II. Till then cya😉)

Being and nothing

Recently I’ve been travelling and I’ve travelled a lot across the diverse contours of this wonderful nation. I’m sure the world outside must be equally pretty and fulfilling. I saw nature at work and witnessed it’s creations first hand. I also marvelled at human creativity and skill -metal structures, stone inlays, towering chimneys. I saw it all. Rather, I imbibed all this glory within me.

The riches of the kings and the the hymns of the heroes, the grandeur of the forts and the serenity of the hills, the chaos in the streets and the tranquility at the temples, the dirt tracks while trekking on roads untravelled and the music that accompanied me during this all. Everything made me realise that there is so much more to the idea of “being” and there is so little that I am aware about.

But each time when I was busy getting spellbound by the visual treats that crossed my eyes, there was always instataneously an event occurring in the background which brought me back to the reality, brutally snapping me out of my surreal, magical experiences- reminding me of the “nothing”.

Outside the palaces and forts, I saw scores of hungry kids running after me for food and alms. The majestic hills being decimated by heavy stone crushing machines. The temple walls being desecrated by young lovers who got pleasure (which is yet unbeknownst to me) by inscribing their names on them. The townsfolk discharging their waste into the very lake which provides freshwater to their own houses.

It was a very unique feeling, this one- being spellbounded in one moment and being equally dumbfounded in the very next.

When I used to scibble about my daily experiences at night, I would often wonder about the whole cycle of life. These lens saw everything but comprehending it all was an altogether different matter- a rich man sitting in his chaffeur driven car on the same street where a homeless man and his entire family cooked and slept.

As far as philosophy is concerned, I didn’t care much. But when it started challenging my faith, it disturbed me. What must we have done or not done to deserve that, what we got? What did that homeless man do to deserve what he got? And what did the rich man do? All this made me feel sick and nauseated.

There is so much distress everywhere. People dying everyday. Sickness and disease all around. Miseries that people live with at all times- some known, most unknown. Secrets that people keep, dark secrets. Jealousy, hate and despair in every other heart. Ohh.. too much to take!

Is this Being?

Lying on my bed with such thoughts, I always turned towards the window. To find some solace, I gazed at the stars. And then, like clockwork, began the second leg of wandering- mindful wandering, as I like to call it. While a moment ago, I was bogged down by thoughts of human suffering and inequality, instantaneously all of it would disappear and soon my mind would be filled with the thoughts of the vastness of space and how trifle our problems were in that scheme of things.

Earth- just a pale blue dot as seen from Mars, might not even be visible from the nearest galaxy and then, there are billions and billions of galaxies. The reality check is pretty harsh. If there is a God, we must understand that he is pretty busy maintaining the normal order of the universe and everything that’s in it. To think that God will solve the problem of some people, on some small planet, which is not even visible from the next nearest inhabited planet is very optimistic but the correct phrase is “hoping against hope”.

That also brings me to the next question:
Are we nothing?

Are we just a ball of dirt revolving around a bigger, hotter ball of gas which in turn revolves around a more bigger and more hotter ball of gasses, which in turn is wandering aimlessly in the vast nothingness of space?

With such deep ramblings which my small brain can’t take, I sleep..with a strong belief that I’ll get more answers as I keep moving!

(To be continued when I find more answers)

21 things I learnt before 21

With just a little time left before I officially take the plunge into adulthood, here I am. And as I promised, I am penning down my life’s experiences and learnings.. hope you will like and appreciate it and learn from it too.

Without further ado, let’s jump in:

1. Life is ephemeral.

When looked through the lens of the World, average human life is too small even to be counted as ephemeral. I’ll personally count myself lucky if I cross the threshold of 63 years (yes, 1/3rd life already over). And what have I accomplished? Well a lot and yet nothing. I won’t delve into either because the former would turn this post into a worthless bragging piece and the latter would make you sympathise with me and thankfully, I want no part of either.
It is often said one person leads many lifetimes (a friend of mine even suggested me a book regarding the same). Then one must also feel inclined to say that LIFE is never ending albeit with breaks in between. Well, I would love to believe it that way. Except that I can’t. Because for now, I can only see one single independent lifetime. I don’t know what happened before and no one can know what lies ahead. But one thing that I firmly know and strongly believe in, is the fact that we can lead many lifetimes in this one single life. As I see it, we have two options: either everyday we lead the same monotonous life and believe that in some other lifetime, we will definitely do something better, or everyday we can do something new. Everyday we can dive deeper and explore a bit more. Everyday we can live this Life which has been gifted to us now. The choice is entirely ours.

2. Rushing is not a great idea

Being a MUMBAIkar, this sentence from me, may come as a shocker for most of you. A person who has lived in the Maximum City can’t afford to not rush- whether it be to catch the train or to pass the signal. We all know that no one here really has the time to wait.
But I implore you to wait just for a moment and reflect on the fact that why are we rushing all the time? Is it because if we don’t, then crores and crores worth of business deals will go haywire or is it simply because everyone else seems to be doing the same? If in case you find option one as more relatable, please- read no further and RUSH! But in case you are able to relate more with the latter option, then just remember one thing- we were born to Live our Life and not RUSH through our Life.
Also, if we think logically too, we might save a few minutes by rushing which will be then spent on irrelevant political discussions or watching the television or such other non productive work (c’mon, don’t fool yourself. We all waste time whenever we can!). Is it then not better to just chill a bit, wait patiently at a signal and just admire the beauty of the city in general or wait back five minutes and listen to a new song in the office car park. Apart from mental peace, added benefits also include increased efficiency, lower heart related diseases (really?) and the list goes on and on.

3. City life is good, but my heart yearns for mother nature.

I’ve lived my entire life in a city, a metropolis at that. In comparison, I’ve not even spent six months away from this hustle and bustle and in the midst of Mother Earth. But bear this in mind, I am in no way biased at this point of time. What comes next is pure analysis, which in my opinion is true and fair (auditing is life these days xD).
City provides me all the facilities at the touch of my fingertip. There’s a certain sense of standard of living. While walking on the road, I can see large, swanky cars and at times, high end bikes too. Luxury is at my doorstep, knocking to come in whenever I agree to pay its bill (ofcourse, nothing is free now, is it?).
In contrast, when you’re out in the wilderness, you just have your two bare hands and the vast endless amount of earth everywhere around you, which you can (or shall I say- ought to) harness. There is this sense of Freedom in it. The necesaary tools are at your disposal, use them and Hey! Live.
No pollution, no diseases, no fears (okay, sometimes I get the chills, but otherwise 🙂 ). No rueful crowd of people- who know where they go, but don’t really like where they go.
In nature- it’s just you, your backpack, your breath and this all encompassing Happiness.

4. Assumptions can lead to difficult situations. Always seek clarification.

“I thought that …!”
Sometimes I think that why do I think so much. I don’t have any answer as of now, hopefully I’ll have one when I sit down to write 30 preachings at 30 (it’s not that bad an idea afterall, No?).
Let’s not swerve and get back to the topic.
For now, I’ll contend with finding the remedy and leave the solution searching part for future.
Let me tell you one funny thing- for a CA student (which I am), everything is about assumptions and ‘depends’. But another thing I have realised is that it’s better to leave this habit of assumptions inside the exam hall and limited to the pages of the study modules.
In real life, assumptions have very damaging effects. You assume your parents will do this for you and your friends will do that for you. You assume your teachers will do this for you and your neighbours will do that for you. If you, my friend, “assume” any of the above, my next sentence might seem rude to you and my sincere apologies in advance, but I’ll have to say this that – You’re a fool. Sorry, but yes, you are. At times lucky, but otherwise a fool.
And why not too?
No one can get inside your head and know what you are assuming.
Remember this in life- “No question ventured, no answer proffered!”

5. Money is awesome. So is peace.

You might already be thinking “oh god, not this debate..not again” and it’s totally normal to think that way too. Even I don’t like it anymore to read articles on this topic. So then why is it featured here? Well, because I have reached a point where I now know which one to choose or rather, how much of each to choose.
Yes, it’s so easy- choose both, no one ever stopped you from doing that.
After reading this, if you are thinking that your life was a lie until now, umm..welcome to the gang.
Choose both but just remember where to draw the line between the two.
I learned it at some point of time during my initial days of articleship. Month after month, I worked diligently, earned my stipend and then distributed it uniquely between my family, myself and charity. The smile that it brought on the faces of my parents and those poor children for whom I purchased stuff, inadvertently left a smile on my face too.
Then it dawned upon me and I boiled it down to this simple rule- ‘Attract money, don’t pursue it. Use the money so attracted, to then net in peace.’
Life is simple, pretty simple.

6. People say I’m rude. I’m just shy.

A big thank you to the ones who were bold enough to say this to me. I really appreciate it.

Straight off- the learning here is not that I’m not a rude person or I am shy person. The great learning here is that I do things that are perceived as being rude by others (my sincere apologies again if any act of mine had even the slightest bearing of rudeness).
People often complaint that I don’t go and talk to them, that I have an ego grander than a peacock’s, that I sometimes act like a complete ass. Well, that’s one side of the picture and I don’t disagree with any of the claims. But I often wonder, why these people never came forward and initiated the talk (mind you, this is no ego but a simple shy behaviour of shy boy). And then they would have realised that I’m just as down to earth as they are. Never mind.
Though I’ve not yet learnt it completely(I’m in the process of learning it) but henceforth, I’ll try flashing a gentle smile at people- known and unknown, text a simple ‘hi’ or say few words of warmth, praise and appreciation, do little acts of kindness and the ilk.. everything that I wait for to happen to myself, I’ll do it first, because who knows- maybe the whole world is waiting for it to happen to them first.
Before I conclude this self critical learning point, I would just like to quote a thought that I staunchly believe in-
“Ego deadens the pain of stupidity and pride is the burden of a fool.”

7. Look at the positives of others.

This one was taught to me by my Mum. Infact this ‘Learning’ is of paramount importance in the sense that it enlightened me about my own shortcomings while looking through the prism of others.
No man is perfect. Never was.. nor will ever be. We were never meant to be perfect. Neither do we have any scale through which we can measure our perfectness nor do we have any training manual which states the golden rules to be Perfect. And this is because there ain’t one (atleast there wasn’t when I last checked).
Whenever we look at someone, we don’t have just the physical form of a person- rather we have in front of us a manifestation of things, events, principles and incidents which can be both good and bad. And that’s how a person is shaped- some parts good, some bad; some better, some best!
Now, my honey from this hive was that a person may have a thousand bad habits but extol his one good deed. A person may have many faults, but celebrate his virtues. No one will be here forever. You won’t be here forever. So till such time that you are here, why not extol the good and expunge the bad? Why not praise the clean intentions and stop blaming the vicious words?
By doing this, you not only find your inner peace but you also attract the positive vibes of the universe. You not only feel eternal calm but you also dispel the satanic dusk of jealousy and experience the illuminating dawn of happiness and mindfullness.
In the process of learning from the better qualities of others, one transform himself into a better human being.
What more does one need?

8. Anything could have been anything else and it would have had just as much meaning.

This quote by Tennessee Williams speaks volumes about how most of the things that matter so much to us right now, are the same things that we won’t even remember on a long enough time scale. It’s a truly liberating quote in the sense that it encourages us to do things we are scared of doing.
When I first came across it in the movie “Mr. Nobody” (if you haven’t watched it, do watch it), it exuded such a strong message that I was positively flabbergasted.
It made me reconsider all the reservations that I had about life itself- not making mistakes, not making a joke out of myself in front of others and so many similar things that an introvert usually dreads. Well, not anymore.
After understanding the deep rooted meaning of this quote, I felt the same way as Archimedes would have felt when he yelled Eureka! (Except that my overwhelmed brain had no words to exclaim at that moment).
Consequently, now I have bulldozed many walls that reigned me in a prison of my own thoughts, broken through the many shackles of my self conceived notions and have come out as more independent, fearless (to a certain extent even Audacious) and ebullient person, who is ready to venture into uncharted waters more frequently than ever before. Quite a contrast to the shadowy life that I’ve lived in the shallow waters till recently, no?
(Well, you don’t know me per se, but imagine me as a very introverted person earlier and a not so introvert person now:p )

9. You are never ready for it until you actually do it.

Me: “I don’t think I’ll be able to dive. I don’t know how to swim. I just can’t. Oh God, please help me.”
Them: “Trust us, nothing will happen. Just jump in.”
*after 2 hours*
Me: “Yeah, this will go down as one of the best times spent with you guys.”

And in that moment I realised that what was now one of my best times with friends, just hours ago seemed like a nightmare that I wasn’t even sure of facing.
I’ll take a more simple example. Most of us here are average students. We are perennially afraid of exams. But what happens after the exam? The single biggest source of worry suddenly seems like a scalable peak. Once results are out and if you have passed it, you might feel that it was not even a peak but a gentle slope which could have been easily traversed, No?
If you could relate to the above example, then you’ll very well understand the title too and I’ll just briefly summarize what I gained out of this-
Sometimes it’s better to accept the fear of the unknown. Everything can’t be controlled. Sometimes we need to “just let all go!”, go with the flow and have faith that it will surely lead us towards a colourful rainbow.

10. Everything can not be controlled.

“I want this to be right here.”
“That’s not the right way to do it.”

If you have repeated these lines at any point of time in your life, continue reading and read carefully, because these are the symptoms of an obscure disease and I, from my own experiences, know how to cure it. Hell, I’ve lived it.
Since as far as I can remember, I always wanted to be perfect, in every thing that I ever did, every task I ever laid my eyes upon. So obsessed I was with being in control of everything, that I never realised when, or for that matter- how, I turned into an irritated and self-centred bastard, who caused only frustration and anger to himself and others in the pursuit of perfectness.
My grip on perfection ceased for the first time when I read the following on a sign board in a school which happened to be one of my exam centre (obviously after the last paper)-
“Life is not a problem to be solved but a mystery to be experienced”
That was the day I realised firsthand, what a fool I had been, to have tried to control everything and to have hopelessly cultivated perfection.

There is some mystic charm in the “unexpected” way of life, some really strong intoxication that draws me towards it even now.
When I ran the perfection race, I expected no obstacles on the road. But now, on this new way, I always keep an eye out for obstacles because they will always come- no matter how carefully I plan. Infact now I wait for them so that when one comes, I’m ever ready to devise a new plan. That’s how life should be! Not rigid and rule bound but Spontaneous and in the moment. Isn’t it?

11. When it’s time to leave, Leave!

Who doesn’t know the old saying, “Change is the only constant”. Yet, how many of us actually understand it?
I, for a change (dumb that I am otherwise), have understood this one ultimate fact. Or maybe my intuitions, which are pretty weak and easily overpowered by fear and risk in usual circumstances, are ‘over-strong’ here. Most of the times, I have a fair realisation about leaving a place, a thing or even a person, for that matter, when it’s time is due; or rather when my time with it is up.
In a way, it’s all about the timing. Right things at the right time with the right people, is achievable but is rare. When such a situation does come, live every moment of it.
Most of times it’s a combination of two rights and one wrong and still, Life goes on smoothly. But when it becomes two wrongs, you realise it’s time to Leave. (And if by chance it becomes three wrongs, you better run!).
Coming back to the “two wrongs” situation- If you leave, well congratulations, you have taken the exit at the right time. If you don’t, you’ll find that you are the only one left. It’s just like one of those complex scientific equations which don’t have any real answer but are just there, mainly because of the assumptions which are as unrealistic and irrelevant as the one’s which we cook up in our heads and try putting in our own equations with the hope that someday all will be fine.
The only learning here is that one must snap out of it as soon as possible and for the best. There is no need to remain stuck in a place where there is forever winter and yet, never Christmas (because the worst part is that there’s no Aslan! xD).
Leave the place, the things or the people and move on. Learn to embrace the change. Leave and Live!

12. Growing up!

Well, many of you will be astonished, but yes, I have only recently begun to learn about growing up. Mind you, I’m not talking about the physical growth, which occurs on its own. In trying to touch upon the mental growth. Only recently I’ve begun to realise that there are a few things that I need and a few things that I don’t. I don’t get upset over most of the things and on the flip side, if I get upset over anything, it takes a long time to finally forget it.
These days, I think a lot before speaking, which wasn’t the case earlier. These days, I’m able to relate to songs, not just the music but even the lyrics- a thing unheard off to me as early as till six months ago (Latest being ‘Why Georgia’).
I try to help others even now, but I know that I should only do so when asked to. It’s not good to jump into somebody’s problems without any notice, right?
The biggest thing that I can say about me which has changed is that I have begun to Empathise. Though I don’t allow myself to do that pretty often (because it can make us sad, and I don’t want to be sad..I mean who wants to be sad anyway?) but these day, due to certain events or circumstances or by just looking at a few people, I empathise as a matter of reflex.
The latest example being the news of a school friend passing away. This is very unlike me, but I felt sad, really sad. I can’t even express it in words.
On the other hand, I have also become a very vicious person when it comes to holding grudges. Like grown up people, even I am unable to forgive some people despite trying my level best. But hey, I have found the next best alternative. I simply ignore them, as if they don’t exist. This way, though the aggression subsides, but it’s like a stove which just needs a spark to reignite when required instead of scratching my head over whether to forgive or keep on holding the grudge. I know this is bad, but then that’s how grown ups are, no? We think something, we feel something else, we do something and we speak something else. It’s a part and parcel of this game.
One more distinct fact that I’ve realised is that unlike during my teen years when I was always bubbling with enthusiasm to go to new places, meet friends and always make myself available for just about anything, now I only go to places where I want to really go, meet friends whom I really want to meet and participate in only those things which I actually want to do. Some say it is priorities, but I like to believe that this is my way of growing up- less nonsense, more substance, less time waste.
By now, you might already be judging me as a very selfish person, but you forget that I’m growing up and grown ups don’t care about all this. So.. peace out!

13. If you want respect, then learn to take the RESPONSIBILITIES.

Respect and Responsibilities go hand in hand. I’m sure that there might be several other factors to it. But here, I want to specifically talk about the two..Maybe because I never understood the supplementary relation that exists between the two. At least till some time ago I didn’t know it, but then Eureka! I got it.
If you’re confused, look no further than your Father for getting a better perspective. You might be either respecting your father or you might be not. And the reason is pretty simple- Responsibility.
In childhood, we are somehow scared of our Dad and that drives us to respect him. Come adolescence, we respect our father because we realise that if it were not for him managing his responsibilities on time, we would have had a really hard life, a really tough time.
Just close your eyes for a minute and think about why you respect your father (or Why you do not) and you’ll slowly and steadily reach to a conclusion that is in conformity with my claim. If you respect him, you’ll be able to identify the various responsibilities he fulfils and if you don’t, you’ll feel the pang of something missing somewhere that is related to him.
Another example is in the battlefield. Nobody respects the thousands of soldiers who died fighting (they are honoured, No doubt- but let’s face it- we don’t even know the names of the fallen ones) but highest levels of respect is accorded to the Generals. The very Generals, who didn’t even pick up the guns. Why? It’s pretty simple, the Generals are the ones who have the direct responsibility on their heads, in both the cases – victory or defeat.
Same is the case with our life in general (pun unintended). In our life too- we will be respected for what we are only if we are Responsible. Accept the responsibilities and embrace grace.

14. Fear of a thing is only till the time that thing doesn’t happen. But Why?

This is totally inspired from a video wherein Will Smith recounts how shit-scared he was for days before his scheduled sky diving episode and once he took the plunge, there wasn’t even a trace of fear left in him, with regards to sky diving anymore. What’s more, he attempted sky diving on multiple occasions after that.
When I saw that video, I was hit hard by the fact that, we have fear about a thing even before we have tried it or even totally understood it.
And the very next question that came in my mind was- Why?
We spend hours and hours worrying about things we don’t even know and circumstances which we create in our minds. More often than not, we spend our energies on thinking about how we will tackle the most improbable situations. Why?
What good is it, anyway?
I’ve tried to find answer to this question but haven’t been able to put together a convincing reason.
So instead I have decided that I’ll henceforth direct my energy in dispelling the fears that come in my mind and focus more on the ways in which, as the case may be, I can enjoy the situation at hand or I can learn from it.
To boil it down, I have one amazing phrase in Hindi:
मै ही था समस्या, अब मै ही इसका हल हूँ।
Which roughly translates to: I was my problem, now I’m my own solution!

15. Choose your shoes wisely. Otherwise how will you run at your top speed?

This one is more reflective and to a certain extent- a borrowed learning. (Well, I believe everything that we learn is, in a way, borrowed. No one came on this good Earth with all the secrets of the entire cosmos installed in their softwares, no?)
For me, in this marathon called life, the ‘shoes’ are a metaphor for the choices we make and ‘running at top (any) speed’ is the direct outcome of those choices.
I don’t know about you, but it makes complete sense to me- in all aspects.
We have to make the choices at every point of our life. This means that we have to inadvertently wear the shoes.
There is always an outcome of the choices that we make. Hence, we also have to run.
Some choices may be good, some might be complete disasters. This is portrayed by the fact that no person runs at a constant speed throughout. Sometimes we may just walk which signifies the bad choices that we make, at other times we may jog- these are the good choices of our life. And yet at some points of time, we will even sprint. These are the best choices of our life.
No matter the shapes and sizes of our shoes, but what really matters is how well run. Also, what matters is how far we run and till how long we run.
We must never forget the fact that we were born to run. Walking, jogging and sprinting are all a part of the race but ultimately we have to ensure just one thing and one thing alone- that we finish this marathon!

16. What we talk about, when we talk about love?

This is a topic that is best left to the learned. But still, rebel soul that I am, I’ll venture into it, even if only on a superficial level.
Love is very strange, isn’t it? It comes in all kinds and for all things- tangible, intangible or otherwise.
You can be totally entranced by the glow of something one minute, be willing to sacrifice everything to make it yours, but then a little time passes, or your perspective changes a bit, and all of a sudden you’re shocked at how faded it appears. What was I looking at? you wonder.
And when I think of it in this way, it still makes me wonder and wonder a lot. Is this all there is to love? The concept on which all the world religions are based upon. The concept which teaches us not about possession but about appreciation. The concept due to which people are willing to happily suffer or kill or die for. The concept which brings together Man and God himself!
There sure must be a whole lot of other things which might get covered in this topic, but I’ll just speak out about what I believe is love.
To give an example, my friend Ayush (rejoice, for you have finally become part of one of my articles) called me on the last day of registrations for an upcoming exam, just to confirm whether I had not forgotten to register. That, to me, was pure love- the selfless types. He had nothing to gain in this whatsoever.
Though love has been stereotyped to be between a man and a lady, but that’s just one of the forms in this vast endless ocean of forms.
Love exists between siblings, families, friends, relatives, even fellowq countrymen, when they meet each other in a foreign land. Not to forget love for animals, birds, hills and forests, skies and beaches, stars and for the moon.
And I am sure that far better examples can be found in modern literature.
But let me not get into that. Let me only speak for my own self right now and as far as I’m concerned, though I may not like the various forms of it (yeah, no touching, hugging, kissing or it’s ilk :p ), but I know that afterall, love is what connects us too. It is the reason due to which people learn about one’s past, not to punish but to protect. It is the reason that we respect others and we care for others and in turn it is also the reason that we get respected and cared for.
As simple as that.

17. Mistakes

I’ll keep this one short:
I’ve made a lot of mistakes in my life. Until now, my single biggest mistake was to not accept that I had made mistakes. And how could I even? I had to be the perfect one. Have you ever heard perfect people making mistakes ?
But recently (you can even call this as my latest learning), I realised that I was not perfect, that I did not have to be perfect. I realised that it was okay to err. I came to terms with the fact that I had erred not once or twice but numerous times, that I had hurt people on multiple occasions- family, friends, colleagues, people in the neighbourhood, hell, beggars on the street even! (And I really regret it all now)
One fundamental rule of life is that we are not perfect- we live and we learn. But learning comes only when we first accept the fact that there is scope for learning. And that acceptance comes when we realise the fact that we have indeed made a mistake.
P.s I would like to apologise from the bottom of my heart to each and everyone whom I’ve hurt- whether they read this or not.

18. Humans are fragile. Handle with care.

When I say that every human is different, I am not just acknowledging the fact that each one of us has a unique fingerprint or an iris. We are so much more complicated than that.
Every person who has ever walked on this earth has felt the walk differently. And this, in fact, is what joins us, what connects us. We are similar due to fact that we are all unique, each one of is is different from the other.
Each one of us can feel differently, can see differently, can heal differently and each one us can express it differently.
One more thing which is common is that each human being is a fragile human being. Each human being is vulnerable.
Some express those vulnerabilities openly and derive support from others to face their issues. Some express it to a group of friends. Some let out their frustrations and despair in front of their of their parents or loved ones. And yet, some face them with reinforcement from within.
At some point, everyone falters- people lose the outside support, friends leave, parents aren’t with us forever and internal reinforcements have a limit. It is at this point that our dam cracks and vulnerabilities start wreaking a havoc.
Everyone goes through the up and down phases of life. That has been the case since even before the first fire was lit by man and this will remain the case even when our future generations might start travelling to the moon for a vacation.
But what we need to realise is that we aren’t the best judges of people and their situations, who would outright come to know when a person is going through a rough patch or when a person is at the trough of fragility. Hence, we should respect every individual and treat him/ her as an equal. We should handle each and every person with care, lest one breaks and we’re left with only lamentation and agony.
Always be good and do good.

19. Be Greatful. Always!

This is an account of a friend’s narrative. I found it pretty interesting, consequently it also found a place here.

“During my morning walk a few days ago, I saw a dog- wounded and writhing in pain. I couldn’t watch the other way as others so coldly did. And as luck would have it, my pouch contained inter alia a tube of ointment, which I had purchased a while ago for another dog, which had some less lacerations but of the similar nature.
So I went near the terrified dog, held it gently over my knees and applied the contents of the tube lavishly on it’s wounds.
Fast forward to today: I was on my regular walking route and had sat down to rest at the pedestal of the Gandhi Memorial. To my surprise, I saw the dog on which I had applied the balm, wagging it’s tail and looking intently at me. Then it came up to the foot of the memorial, where I was sitting and very carefully, it took my hand between it’s own front feet and sat itself down; as if my hand was some treasure and it was it’s pious duty to guard it.
The regular walkers who knew me and who had seen me apply the balm on it were equally amazed and one even went on to say that it was the dog’s way of showing gratitude, of saying thank you for your kindness.”

When I heard this, I was equally awed and those last words kept lingering in my mind for that entire day.
I realised one thing for sure- Dogs are Greatful and they let us know that they are Greatful. This is the primary reason why they are loved and adored by all.
In the next moment, I was also struck by- “What has happened to humans?” Neither are we grateful and even if we are, only a few of us actually express it.
What happened to us human?
I’m no good either and so everyday I look in the mirror and ask myself- what happened to me?
And I believe that you should do the same too- because then miracles won’t just sound as a fairy tale term.

20. To err is human. To forgive- should also be HUMAN.

When I read the following words by Portia in Act 4 Scene 1 of ‘The Merchant of Venice’:
“The quality of mercy is not strained.
It droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven
Upon the place beneath. It is twice blest:
It blesseth him that gives and him that takes.” – I did just that- Read it!
Never did I understand the underlying meaning of it.. Until now that is.
Maybe sometimes, some things are only understood gradually, over a considerable period of time, because “forgiveness” is a thing that I definitely didn’t learn overnight.
It is a way of life that I found through the many hits and misses of life.
And now it is so well engrained within me that even my alias on the blogging site WordPress is “A Silent Spectator”- in part because I am a quiet person and more so because I see everything and yet pass it off as an unassuming bystander. All wrongs already forgiven and forgotten (okay, not all..some I keep to motivate myself from time to time).
The world is full of jealous, hateful and angry people; people who themselves can’t live happily and thus, they wouldn’t let you live happily either.
In such a situation, Forgiveness is truly a virtue of the divine. It not only absolves the ignorant but also preserves our peace of mind and bliss.
I believe that today’s sermon is delivered and hence, I would like to conclude by quoting one of my favourite quotes- “When you forgive, you in no way can change the past but you definitely change the future.”

21. We always chase the wrong things and the wrong people.

I’m sure most of you already agree with this and have personally experienced it at some point of time in life.
(Frankly, in case of ‘People’ I’m a bit dumb, but whatever is true for things in the write up below, should be considered equally true for people too.)
Most of us are perfectly sane to realize the good things that await us just around the corner but we always feel the urge, the temptation to eat “the Apple” (maybe it’s genetic, lol). There are a thousand reasons to not eat it, but irrationality compels logic and temptations overpower the goals.
Don’t worry, it’s not that grave a thing as I’m making it to be. But nevertheless, it is funny (read funny as idiotic), no?
Life always has the best things to offer to us, but we, born fools that we are, always run after the things that were never meant for us. Things that were kept away for our own good.
And it’s not like we haven’t been warned. Infact, we have been warned about this since the very beginning and yet, it takes us atleast one fall ourselves to finally understand it. It’s as if something in us urges us to take the fall, knowing fully well the consequences and the aftermath. But that’s how we are. That’s how we have always been. Maybe it’s just a whim of our stubborn heart which is yet to fall and will learn only by falling. Maybe it’s just a way of Life, in a sense that life wouldn’t seem so fulfilling if we hadn’t experienced this for ourselves.

Because everyone likes something extra..here is one more part:

22. Random Thought

Some days it’s so weird.. one moment you feel sad, then feel happy and then suddenly you realise that you actually don’t know what you’re feeling.
You are in chaos and at peace- all at once.
One moment you can feel the winter winds on your face and then be kissed by the sun rays in the very next moment.
And similar is the case with me, one moment I know what to write and then again it’s utter confusion like it has become now.
But do you know what’s the best thing about this All?
The best thing is that, nobody actually thinks about it. Nobody cares if it’s right or wrong. So why should I rack my brains up about Some thing which won’t even matter to most once they’ve read this and a few others who will remember it only until the next hour and still a few who might probably remember it for a day or two at most.
At some point, we all must just accept the fact that we are humans and that we make mistakes and consequently not think too much about it. And poof! Life become so much more easy..and that’s all there is to it anyway!

Thanks for Reading. May you have a nice day.

P.s Typos are regretted.

Alive Enough?

I’m alive today but what guarantee do I have that I’ll wake up to see tomorrow’s Sun? Guarantee- I have none. It’s just faith that I have and Hope that I cling on to before going to sleep that I’ll wake up to see another morning.

How fickle is our being. Alive in this moment- in all glory and naught in the next. Even the thought of it brings jitters and send a cold chill down my spine.

Everyday we keep making plans about the things we will do and the things we will be. We sew together an elaborate dream each night, a dream in which we are what we have always wanted to be. And day after day, everyday- we keep deferring those plans and those things thinking that we have our entire life ahead of us for fulfilling our dreams and desires. We believe that right now, it is time to become someone, to prove to the world that “I am also a force to be reckoned with!”

Well, honestly, I am not against the mentality of becoming something and sacrificing my present for a better future, but what has recently begun to haunt me is not future but “uncertain” future. The thought that- what if I’m not supposed to live till the average age and that, this time now, which I’m sacrificing in becoming something worthwhile is actually God’s gift to me, which I’m wasting because I won’t have time left afterall, when I’ve indeed become something.

(Actually these are the moments when I really believe that Ignorance is Bliss. But that’s not the point right now.)

I do say that ZNMD is my all time favourite movie but I must also supplement my above claim by adding that societal pressure is a tad too much, to actually follow the tenets that are so beautifully portrayed in the movie. Even I want to live the high life, but for that I have to study. If I study now, that means that I’m sacrificing my present. And time once lost, is lost forever. Plus I have the added risk that I might not make it afterall or maybe even if I do make it, I don’t sustain it for too long or worse yet, even if I make it and I am able to sustain it, my body won’t support me well at that point in time because I neglected it in the present. This is such a vicious circle and as I put in more factors, this circle will only enlarge.

So then, how do we break this deadlock? We can’t abandon education and adopt a carefree life. We can’t even let ourselves entirely into studies because then we would be back to square one. So what to do? How to tend both the things? The answer is simple. We need to make daily plans (like we all do and I even mentioned that earlier) and we also need to ensure that these plans are executed.

Just as we take out time for television and mobile phones from our “busy lives”; we must, as well, take out time for the things which truly matter to us. The things which will make us feel alive. Small and everyday things like tending to a small plant or catching up with friends- old and new alike. Things1 like playing the guitar, or staying in the shower for five extra minutes so that we can showcase our singing talents, not to the soap and the shampoo bottles, but to our own selves.

As it is we are already surrounded by walls and screens, insomnia and assignments, papers and reviews, deadlines and bosses; so I don’t think that it might really be a big deal if we were to add a few more variables into the equation. In fact, these are the variables which we are fond of, which we feel pleasure in performing. For these things, we only need to have the will to do it and Time will automatically adjust for it.

I have decided to do the things which I like doing along with the ‘oh-so-important’ things of life. Just as I have hope and faith that I’ll wake up see the sun shines tomorrow, I have the same hope and faith (let’s not get into the discussion of being in control, because that is a myth) that Time will create a leeway for the things that matter to me NOW!

And the good news, my dear friends, is that it always does.