When misery befalls and trust is shattered, when a loved one leaves you or hopes get battered- before doing anything else, hit the pause button of your life and rest for a moment.
Gather your closest friends and your family. Over food and drink and mirth, let out the ever so suppressed stories of betrayal and despair, disappointment and hurt.
Find a song that speaks to your heart and keep playing it again and again. And play it some more. Sing along, as if you were singing for all the poor crestfallen souls like yourself. Sing along, as if it would actually heal their wounded spirits.
Catch a movie with your best friend or even alone, better if the movie is illogical and flimsy. Cry when a scene demands and laugh likewise. Relive the days as you did in your teens- carefree and joyous.
And still if your spirit is not uplifted, travel. Turn those weekends into holiday trips. No destination, no watches, no mobile phones- just you and the road. The cool air kissing your face and the sun shining brightly all over you.
Find your sacred place and make your cocoon there. Clear all your emotions and empty your mind there. Let the peace get imbibed in you from there. And then emerge and fly, yet, never forget for a moment that you can always come back there.
Learn to love all your imperfections. Treat yourself as you would treat your friend. You are so eager to help your friends, help your own self with the same eagerness. Stroke your heart once in while and learn to tell yourself- ” I Love You.”